The Remmet’s Guide to Moving On

Moving on is one of the most challenging phases in anyone’s dating life. It becomes even more challenging when you have to be decent about it. Whining, badmouthing, planning a revenge, begging – these are all so tempting. When you are fueled by your emotions, you can’t seem to think and you risk ending up being the stupid, pathetic fool of an ex that’s going to be the talk of town for as long as possible. The story will go down generations even when you think they have forgotten.

Yes, it is challenging hands down. Your moving on process may just about be the most difficult and most heartbreaking moment of your adult life – but it should not be the most embarrassing. You don’t have to lose your face while at it.

Here is the Remmet Guide to moving on. Read on:

While you’re at it, take your time. Dating anew is optional. Don’t let other people or revenge be your tool and motivation to move on. Let yourself be the reason for moving on.


How to Know if She’s Emotionally Secure in the Relationship

Have you succeeded in making your girlfriend emotionally secure in the relationship?

Emotional security is one of the biggest indicators that your girlfriend is happy and content in your relationship, and is likely to stick around with you on the long term. This is also what most, if not all, women are looking for when they enter a relationship. Even the most confident and independent of women seek emotional security in a relationship.

Moreover, emotional security is a mark of a healthy relationship. There’s mutual trust and confidence, there’s contentment, and there’s love. If you have managed to make your girlfriend emotionally secure in a relationship, consider yourself lucky.

But then again, how do you know if your girlfriend is emotionally secure? Here are some telltale signs:


Advanced Flirtechnology: Texting vs Calling

In this day and age, men of today are so much luckier as far as their dating lives are concerned. Many of the things that their fathers and grandfathers have had to go through during courtship can be done today in a click of a button. Men don’t have to drive for miles on end to see their ladyloves from across the country. They don’t have to wait ages for their love letters to reach their girlfriends. They don’t have to do anything other than use a phone to do practically everything for them – from making a call, sending a text, shopping for a gift, or reserving a date. Technology has indeed changed dating!

Today, for everything – ‘there’s an app for that!’

Romantic correspondences are reduced to a few minutes of calls on the phone and cute, emoticon-laden messages on text. In the competition for the best form of romantic communication, texting and calling are top choices. Email is for work – duh!
But between the two, texting and calling, which would rank better in making romantic advances? Which would be the best form of communication for landing a date with the lady of interest? Which would a lady prefer? Don’t you want to know what women really want?
(for this discussion, Whatsapp, Viber, Line, and other similar applications will be singled out as ‘texts’ because they are practically the same)

Flirtechnology: Texting vs Calling


Technology has changed everything – even dating. The way you use it determines whether it changed dating for the better or worse.

So you have this lady in mind and you are dying to get her to go out on a date with you. One date is all you need and you’ll be happy for at least the next 50 years of your life. And luckily, she gave you her number – a clear consent that she might just be open to your advances.

What do you do – text or call?

The best thing to do would be to start with a text. A text message is not too threatening and reduces pressure on both parties. It gives both people a chance to think about what they are going to say, plus all those emoticons and the stickers of these texting apps are a great way to mask your nerves and give ‘life’ to your voiceless texts.

For people who couldn’t exactly say they are ‘close’, texts give them a chance to get to know each other without the pressure of quiet and awkward moments and bad, embarrassing slips. This allows for either party to build a ‘personality’ for himself or herself more easily than when you’re confronted face-to-face or with a call.

But of course, it should never stop with a text. Use texting only to gather enough information about the other person and confidence for yourself. Prior to making the call, ask her if it is a good time. Not only is this proper and polite (and gentlemanly – of course you don’t want to catch her at a bad or busy time); it is also a good way to gauge how comfortable she would be with you on a more personal form of communication.

In Conclusion

There should be no competition between texting and calling. The former should, ideally, be the prequel to make way for the latter to take place – and both should effectively aid you in your courtship attempts.

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How to Become a Happily Single Guy

It takes a lot of self confidence, sense of independence, and maturity to be happy being single. A lot of people find their happiness and life meaning through their relationships. But, as proven by quite a number of happily single people, there are a lot of satisfying and happy things in being single. If you are coming from a breakup, go through this SonicSeduction guide on handling breakups.

If you’re a guy who’s become so unhappy with the complexities of relationships, and is completely tired of all the games that go with dating and courtship, then maybe you’ll find fun and freedom in being single. Here are some ways on how to be happily single:


Being single and happy is not at all impossible.


Sharing a bed or an apartment with somebody doesn’t guarantee more happiness.

People who’ve had their fair share of being single are notably happier when they get into relationships: they are surer of themselves, more confident about who they are, and they have taken the time to become mature enough to handle a mature relationship.

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Post-Breakup: Moving On Through Meditation

Nowadays, the word “meditation” has become synonymous with peace, harmony, and balance. Today’s rustling and bustling environment has made people’s stress levels go off the charts, and as a result, many have sought refuge in meditating—an experience which aims to bring the mind, the body, and the spirit into one in order to achieve a state of calm and control.

A relaxed state of mind and body has become a privilege these days. Meditation helps in slowing things down, and allows the mind to experience calm and stability. People with active lifestyles and hectic schedules would definitely benefit from meditation because it decreases stress, anxiety, and worries. It’s never too late to meditate—and here are some tips on how to get started.


The Key to Meditating: Detach!

Meditation can do wonders for your body and mind. However, it is important to know that meditating would require you to “break away” from the outside world, even for just a few minutes. If you find yourself attached(both emotionally and physically) to your mobile phone 24/7—detach! If you find yourself thinking about her most of the time, detach! Take a break from all those social networking sites that kill your time, productivity, and energy. Allowing yourself to become detached to the outside world is your gateway to a calmer and a more stable mind and body.

Meditating for the First Time

In order to meditate, you must find a spot that you can call your “sanctuary”—a place where it’s calm, peaceful, and quiet. Sit in a comfortable position. Usually, the classic meditation pose is to sit with your legs folded, with your hands rested on your lap—but if there are other positions that would make you feel more comfortable, feel free to use it.

Meditating with your eyes open would allow all your senses to become open altogether. This can also lead to a “relaxed alertness” that will let you experience balance and harmony between the body and mind. Meditating with your eyes closed would allow your mind to achieve a “relaxed awareness” that brings calmness and stability, as well as remove anxiety, worry, and stress. If you need fun (read: animated) readings on more meditation tips, click this article from the Guardian.

Allow yourself to breathe freely, feeling every breath as it happens. Slowly relax as you inhale, and flush out all distractions, anxieties, and worries as you exhale. Meditating for 20 minutes twice daily can definitely contribute to your well-being and improve your quality of life.

The Transformation Process and Benefits

The wonders of meditation lie in its ability to transform and heal the entire mind, spirit, and body. It also avoids you from becoming bitter about past relationships. Mediators are more likely to calmly respond in aggressive situations. Establishing better personal relationships would soon follow, as you develop inner peace. Also, the mind becomes focused and the ability to concentrate reaches its full potential.

According to many studies, meditation also helps in lowering blood pressure. Practising it daily also helps relax blood vessels, lessening the risk of heart complications.

Make it a Habit. You will be surprised at how you can attract women naturally!

Now that you have learned the basics of meditation and its wonderful benefits, it’s about time that you get started. If you think you are ready to date again, check this article out on how to ask her out. Meditating daily only takes a little amount of your time, and yet, its effect on your overall well-being will surely last you a lifetime.

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Romantic Lunch Date Ideas

Who says lunch dates are strictly for girl gossips and business meetings? Who says you can’t pull off a lunch date to beat all of your dinner dates when it comes to being romantic?

Many men (and women too!) take this wonderful time of day and fail to see its potential for a great romantic date. Of course, sidewalk bistros are always noisier during the day, and kids are mostly allowed in restaurants so they make for less than ideal places for intimate meals with a special girl.

And besides, with the brightness of the day, and the brightness of the rooms inside, it would be a challenge to sneak in for your first kiss with your potential new girlfriend!

Then again, I said challenge, not impossibility. Here are some of the best and most romantic date ideas made for midday meals:


Picnics are relaxing and carefree that’s why everybody loves it!


Fruit picking is a fun activity. Cap the date off with lunch from the farm’s restaurant.

Lunch dates are far from the intensely passion-toned dates scheduled for late evenings. Keep it as light and as happy as possible, and the sensuality of it will follow.

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“I’m allergic to her pets!” and How to Deal with Relationship Differences


Embrace the difference. There is beauty in difference.

She loves dogs, you hate them. She is into Justin Beiber, you could not stand any of his songs. She’s vegetarian and you choke at the thought of having tofu or cauliflower in your food (oh and you live for burgers and bacon, and bacon-wrapped burgers).

In most every way, you and your girl are different and you swear you cringe at the very things that make her happy, what do you do?

How do you deal with the differences in your (budding) relationship? How do you keep a relationship, despite being polar opposites of each other?

Here are some tips:

There never was a written rule that couples should be the same in every aspect so might as well embrace that difference. You might discover and learn new things you would otherwise not have known if you were with someone who is completely a perfect clone of you in the opposite sex. You can ease the tension though when you do things that would make her like you more. Stop resisting, stop fighting the differences between you and bask in its beauty.

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The Art of Exiting: Ways to Escape a Bad Date

Some dates are incredible you could marry her right off the open bar. Some dates are okay and you can’t wait to know more about her and schedule your next date. Some dates are fine, like we-didn’t-try-to-kill-each-other fine. Some, still, are better left in the crevices of the forgotten and lost in the distant bad memories part of your brain.

If you are in this kind of date, you probably didn’t SIBG’s advice on girlfriends. Don’t worry, it’s not yet too late.

The thing that separates those fine dates which is practically so-so in the realm of bad date and the cringe-worthy, totally forgettable one is the exit. Most of the dates described in the former are cringe-worthy waiting to happen but the gentleman only has made his artful escape right before disaster hour. The latter, well, we all know what happened.

How can you possibly escape a bad date without (a) breaking a window at the restaurant, (b) saying it in her face how awful a date it is, and (c) leave her from the backdoor without a word and earn a really, really, really bad rep? The answer: a great, fool proof alibi. Here are some of the top notch escape routes from a bad date:


Getting a fake call is probably one of the ‘safest’ way to exit a horrible date.

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Personal Hygiene and Dating

 Nothing is a bigger turnoff for a woman on a date than a guy with bad hygiene. I don’t think even Brad Pitt can get away with some food stuck on your teeth or some really strong body odor. Seriously, it’s gross.

But more than that, bad hygiene reflects on the kind of personality you have. It is a very accurate indication on your level of responsibility for yourself. There’s a good divide between the appeal of male hormones-filled man-smell and the outright smell of three days worth of showering. There is a difference between the guy who keeps a sexy scruff versus the guy who lives in the age of the pirates.

You can be the most awesome conversationalist that people – especially ladies – beg off of conversations because they cannot stand the smell of your breath. If you want to attract women the natural way, read on.

I cannot possibly emphasize enough how much hygiene affects your dating life and so let’s just move on to some personal hygiene tips for men:


The shower is everyone’s best friend, in case you still don’t know.

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Adventurous Date Ideas that will Make Her Like You More

There are date ideas that will make you look like a sweet, romantic guy. Others will make you look like the intelligent one. Others, still, will seal your spot as the classy, sexy, suave leather loafers-wearing guy. Where you take your date and what you do together says a lot about you – or at least that is what we girls would love to believe.

But what about if you slightly, just slightly, deviate from the all-too familiar and usual restaurant and wine bar and movie dates? What if you try to be a little on the rough adventurous side? What kind of image do you conjure up in your date’s eyes?

How do you know if your planned adventurous date works to your advantage or not?

Here are some adventure-themed dates that you can score you really, really big points whether you do it on the first date, second, third, and nth dates:

  1. Camping – for the adventurous kinda’ gal, it would be the most fabulous idea. For the not so into the wilderness, you might have to take it up a notch with making the whole idea comfortable and memorable for her. The secret to getting a good shot at a camping date is exactly that: make her feel comfortable amidst the rocky, grassy, outdoorsy world you choose to take her to. Some foolproof tips would be to (1) bring some really awesome food, (2) make it comfortable by buying tons of mosquito lotion and packing up a really, really comfortable sleeping bag (the softest you can get please), and (3) giving her the ambiance. Transform your dinner over campfire into a very romantic one with some good music. Take your guitar with you or at least your phone speakers. This will make you look like the guy who can protect her and make her comfy and happy no matter where in the world you are.
  2. Skydiving – if she hasn’t done it yet, you’ll have to do some extra job at convincing her to do this adventure of a lifetime. If she has, then you’ll have to convince her to do it again, this time, with you. This is really interesting but I suggest you look at the basics first before jumping in (pun intended). I heard it’s pretty addictive so the convincing shouldn’t be too difficult. Take her to a skydiving spot with an awesome view and where a good thing awaits her at descent. Maybe a nice little fancy date with roses? This is a PERFECT situation to show your skills on how to flirt with a woman. Skydiving is that type of date idea that will make you seem like a risk-taker, a completely adventurous guy who knows how to have fun out of life.
  3. SCUBA diving – this is not the one-date-makes-it-all type. You know that you do have to go through a series of classes to earn your certificate for an initial dive and to make it past this stage with your girl, be there with her all the way. Scuba diving gives you the image of a ‘deep’ and ‘sensitive’ type of guy. You know how to look the beauty that lies beneath the surface. You know how to go deeper because you know it’s rewarding. Add to it the fact that you would go out of your way to help her out in her baby steps, er, baby dives, she’ll appreciate you more for all the effort.

Scuba diving gives you the image of a ‘deep’ and ‘sensitive’ type of guy.

These activities will keep not only your relationship healthy, but you, too.

Have lots of fun ok!

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